⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ Small, portable, light to carry, easy to read, big font size
Blogmaiden, Boston, Massachusetts, USA
These days I look for books that I can carry easily, read without magnifying glasses, and finish in one commute. I was delighted to see such a digestible piece arrive at my doorsteps. With twitter, instagram, text messages, and other media bombarding my waking hours, I am reluctant to start anything I can’t finish.
At first I was skeptical about reading a book with a title that contradicts the very core of my upbringing. Is Frances Ku telling us to lower our expectations or to completely wipe out or abandon the very act of expecting? Does her book fall in the domain of expectation management?
Her writing is so clear and crisp that I sailed through all seven steps without stumbling. Clearly a self-help book, it is full of advice. What I’d like to read is stories or lessons from her own life experience or that of her readers, but that would clearly double the number of pages. Thus I’m inviting all my friends and contacts to read this book so they can discuss its contents with me.
⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ Thrive without Expectations
Bill Wood, Dorchester, Massachusetts, USA
“If you’re tired of having expectations and experiencing disappointment again and again… you’re brimming with excitement and the next moment crash landing”, consider this newly published book.
Frances Ku, the author, is a spiritual philosopher and artist. As a channel for higher wisdom, she explores was to live optimally as our true nature by harnessing our creative power.
Each of the seven chapter titles read like action items, plus the chapters have a summary, exercises, strategy, and affirmations.
In the “Removing the Curse” chapter, the author clarifies commonly held misconceptions that can ruin your well-being and how to remove them.
In “Stop Expecting Gloom and Doom”, instead of sabotaging your well-being, focus on what appeals to you—how to convert expectations of undesirable outcomes to statements about desirable outcomes using non-expect words.
When disappointment creeps in, turn it into empowerment.
Lastly, we learn from the “Dance with Life” chapter to “…stay open and curious and remember to laugh along the way.”
I found the most important paragraph in the book was in the “Final Word”. “As the 7 steps become your response to events, they will be free from disappointment…. You will be more receptive as more doors open…. You will be able to reflect on the past without being held back by it. You will treasure the present without neglecting to prepare for the future.”
That is this book’s Final Word but it will continue to resonate and inspire you after you’ve finished reading it the first time—then, you can return to it as a reference or guide book!
⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ Embrace the nuggets of know-how that The Power of Zero Expectations offers!
B.D., Minneapolis, Minnesota, USA
I’ve already added this book to my wellness tool box and is my new go-to in creating a wondrous sense of solace and well-being. It has undoubtedly generated a positive impact on my life and significantly bolstered my wellness journey.
Frances Ku does a great job in boiling down the fundamentals in a concise and easy-to-read format. She invites the reader to explore her examples, strategies and affirmations at the end of each chapter, skillfully applying her nuggets. Two key takeaways are live in the present and let go of what is not in our control.
I was inspired by her words to the wise, as she gently guides and encourages readers to shed new light and perspectives on changing our attitude towards life, people, and situations.
This has afforded me with a new confidence, that I can take anywhere, as I encounter new challenges that life will throw my way. I encourage all to explore, as she imparts her abundant savoir faire!
⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ Tidy and breezy!
A.Y., Sunderland, Massachusetts, USA
This is a highly useful and usable book. It’s short — 50 airy pages — but it’s packed with bite-sized solutions.
You don’t need any solutions, you say? Cuz you’re not having a problem? That’s what I said when I was given this book. I’m not someone who expects life to hand me privileges and success on a silver platter, I said. I’m not constantly disappointed and in need of being freed from disappointment, I muttered.
But I got curious and started reading, and went “Wow, this is smart. And perceptive, and empathetic,” and then, “Great examples!” (examples of thoughts that dart in and out of people’s minds — my mind — about how things should be, whether it’s work, family, dinner, the neighborhood leash law, the exchange policy at the store, the government, the length of the zoom meeting, etc., etc.) Maybe I do have less-than-healthy expectations, I thought. But I wasn’t fully sold until I got to the chapter on expecting gloom and doom. “Without realizing it, many of us are naysayers and expect misfortune to occur. We undermine our happiness by being pessimistic, cynical, or defeatist,” Ku writes. Oh wow, that’s me, I thought. I AM pessimistic (though I tend to call it being “realistic,” which sounds nicer). “Expecting unwanted outcomes won’t ever make you feel good. While you’re bracing yourself for the worst, you are sapped of hope and joy.” Yes, very true. I read on. “Essentially, expecting undesirable outcomes is the equivalent of being disappointed in advance whether or not they will ever occur.” By now I was looking for a yellow highlighter.
OK, I do need solutions, I thought. As if it could hear my thoughts, the book gave some right then (the pacing of this book is superb). For example, it showed me how I can shift my mood simply by changing the words I was saying to myself, the words in those thoughts darting in and out of my mind all the time. It had a quick exercise that got me making replacements. Instead of “I expect I’ll always be too busy with work to have as much time for my hobby as I’d like,” I can say “I look forward to learning how to accept less work so I can have more time for my hobby. Instead of “I expect to get less attractive as I age,” I can say “I need to develop the wisdom to embrace aging with grace, and I think I can do that.” Instead of “I expect even more devastating weather in the future,” I can say “I wonder if there’s a climate change effort I can volunteer for.” And so on. As soon as I said the replacement words, I felt happier and healthier. And it took just a few minutes to do this exercise. That’s what I mean by bite-sized solutions. Sure, I expect I’m going to have to keep doing this exercise, or else I’m back to the same old rut. Or, uh, I mean, I look forward to practicing this new way of thinking so it becomes a habit.
Enough. You get the idea. Get the book. There’s no downside to reading it, and very likely a big upside.
⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ Don’t expect anything from this book, and it could change your life.
Frances Ku has delivered a book with a powerful practical punch: she tells us how to avoid disappointment by not having expectations, even though having expectations may seem like a great idea to some–even Charles Dickens.
With expectations, there is a high probability that they will not be met. A sense of failure and disappointment may well ensue. Such a state of mind is not productive or enjoyable.
So set goals, strive, and keep moving forward– open to a world of possibilities. This short, concise book provides EVERYDAY EXAMPLES and PRACTICAL EXERCISES for fashioning a life of zero expectations. It is a book that could change your life, providing, of course, that you don’t expect it to.